[He nods a little, understanding the sentiment at least.]
Being frustrated is... Completely warranted.
[Because this situation is a mess.]
But even if you know what's going to happen for certain, and even if it's not what you wanted, you do still have a choice here. Knowing an inevitability doesn't make the time in between less important, and no matter who you end up with in the future you still have the time to sort out--if you'd like to--what you feel while here. You don't even have to come to the same conclusion as you might in the future; the you here and now is just as valid and important as the you eight years in the future.
[If that makes sense; it's not like this is a situation that he knows the exact right way to put into words. But it comes down to the fact that knowing the ending doesn't make the middle any less important, which is something that he's very aware of due to his own situation.]
And if I were me, and not Elena, the newly turned vampire, I could, but all of these feelings are just boiling over. I can't shut them off. I don't know where one feeling ends and another begins, my anger, at everything, anguish I thought I'd felt, sadness from the hardest year I've ever been through, for people I've lost, for people I learn I'm going to lose...
[Sure, he understands that changing species--especially with the side effects she's explained--is a big deal, but it doesn't suddenly make her someone else entirely.
But it makes sense that she's having trouble sorting things out, especially because of the heightened emotions, and although his original plan had been to try to find a root issue and focus on it first he thinks now there might be a better idea.
His next question might seem a little out of nowhere, but there's a point to it.]
[ Through the threat of newly formed tears, she bursts out laughing.
Excuse the girl who's feeling too many emotions as she works through the latest one bubbling up. When she finally tamps her reaction down, she leans over to grab a tissue, because tears and snot and laughter are not becoming of a lady and her eyes are starting to sting. (Mostly the last reason.) ]
All my life. I hid it behind a ceramic mermaid in my room. I've tried to write in it every day. You can imagine why I took the week off under the influence of Delight and Rage.
[Laughing through tears is, of course, not entirely uncommon reaction, but it can be for many reasons and initially he's concerned he might've said something that specifically upset her. But her answer reassures him a little that it was more just a response to the question being ridiculous in a way.
But the answer itself is a good one, and he smiles sympathetically.]
Yeah, that's understandable. But okay, good, then I probably don't have to tell you it's a really good way to sort out how you feel about something, even if it might just be a confusing mess before you start writing.
[He's also kept a journal for pretty much as long as he could write, and it's been a great help to him. It's definitely useful here.]
[He can go on--he's good with synonyms--but he thinks the joke and show of understanding have both been made.]
There are blank books in the library that you can find if you look around a little, although you can also write on the phones. Try writing whatever comes to mind at first, not just specifically reflecting on the day.
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Date: 2017-06-29 01:12 am (UTC)Being frustrated is... Completely warranted.
[Because this situation is a mess.]
But even if you know what's going to happen for certain, and even if it's not what you wanted, you do still have a choice here. Knowing an inevitability doesn't make the time in between less important, and no matter who you end up with in the future you still have the time to sort out--if you'd like to--what you feel while here. You don't even have to come to the same conclusion as you might in the future; the you here and now is just as valid and important as the you eight years in the future.
[If that makes sense; it's not like this is a situation that he knows the exact right way to put into words. But it comes down to the fact that knowing the ending doesn't make the middle any less important, which is something that he's very aware of due to his own situation.]
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Date: 2017-07-01 03:18 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2017-07-01 03:24 am (UTC)[Sure, he understands that changing species--especially with the side effects she's explained--is a big deal, but it doesn't suddenly make her someone else entirely.
But it makes sense that she's having trouble sorting things out, especially because of the heightened emotions, and although his original plan had been to try to find a root issue and focus on it first he thinks now there might be a better idea.
His next question might seem a little out of nowhere, but there's a point to it.]
Have you ever tried keeping a journal?
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Date: 2017-07-01 03:40 am (UTC)Excuse the girl who's feeling too many emotions as she works through the latest one bubbling up. When she finally tamps her reaction down, she leans over to grab a tissue, because tears and snot and laughter are not becoming of a lady and her eyes are starting to sting. (Mostly the last reason.) ]
All my life. I hid it behind a ceramic mermaid in my room. I've tried to write in it every day. You can imagine why I took the week off under the influence of Delight and Rage.
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Date: 2017-07-01 04:08 am (UTC)But the answer itself is a good one, and he smiles sympathetically.]
Yeah, that's understandable. But okay, good, then I probably don't have to tell you it's a really good way to sort out how you feel about something, even if it might just be a confusing mess before you start writing.
[He's also kept a journal for pretty much as long as he could write, and it's been a great help to him. It's definitely useful here.]
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Date: 2017-07-01 04:16 am (UTC)[ Or the opposite, really, but in a way it just -- shorts her circuits. But this is still helping, someone listening. ]
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Date: 2017-07-01 04:29 am (UTC)[He can go on--he's good with synonyms--but he thinks the joke and show of understanding have both been made.]
There are blank books in the library that you can find if you look around a little, although you can also write on the phones. Try writing whatever comes to mind at first, not just specifically reflecting on the day.
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Date: 2017-07-01 04:30 am (UTC)Just - anything. Like, a free-write.
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Date: 2017-07-01 04:33 am (UTC)Exactly. Whatever thoughts are in your head, or even just descriptions of whatever you feel whether or not you know why you feel that way.
[Putting it into words often helps make the connection more clear, somehow, at least for him.]
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Date: 2017-07-01 04:34 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2017-07-01 04:35 am (UTC)[Because that'll help more.]
But ultimately it's your journal; write whatever comes to you.