[He recognizes the voice, and that helps mitigate the 'what' reaction; it also helps that he'd spoken with Sans a few times while he was still here. But Lance still looks briefly a little alarmed, and then a little confused, before shaking it off.]
[Honestly, it's a look she's gotten used to. It's cool.]
Just a gal lookin' for a little advice. Sooo, a pal of mine's been havin' some pretty awful nightmares, like the wake up and scream kind, the last few months. He's always brushed it off as nothing, which is totally his right to do, but then we had the, um, dream sharing thing happen and I...
[Saw some dank horrors that were definitely memories, not just nightmares.] I guess what I'm asking, is there anything to do about helping someone with that thing?
[Well, this is oddly familiar; Kyna had just asked him about the same thing a few days ago. He wonders briefly if it might be the same person they're talking about, but either way his advice is the same.]
There is, to some extent. Unless they're occasional, normal nightmares everyone has sometimes, most serious or recurring nightmares have an underlying cause. Although it's difficult to actually treat the symptom without working through the cause, there are still a few things that can be done to lessen the severity.
[It may or may not be very effective, but if whoever it is isn't willing to deal with the underlying issue--which is understandable--then it's worth a try.]
Typically, nightmares happen when the subconscious is trying to sort out or make sense of something that's happened, or feelings that the individual has. Therefore it can often be beneficial for them to consciously get their thoughts in order as much as possible, such as by writing down anything that's been on their mind, talking to a friend about what's upsetting or worrying them, or otherwise trying to mentally address the problem. But suppressing or ignoring it often leads to the nightmares increasing, in order to balance out.
[Dang, he does sound all professional about this shit.
It's a real test of Lup's willpower to not just joke away the situation, and if it was for anyone less important to her, she absolutely would have. But this is about the one who matters most to her, so Lup listens and actually takes in everything he has to say. Which is all helpful advice, except for one small part...]
Probably not gonna work well if they aren't willing to talk about it, huh?
It can still be effective, at least in some amount, if they're willing to think about and work out their problems enough to write them down. Even if they can't come to a conclusion, or figure out the underlying problem, it can sometimes be enough just to recognize that they're angry or anxious or upset.
[Although Lup's right in that any major changes are not likely if the person isn't willing to talk about it. Still, even lessening the severity of the nightmares a little can go a long way.]
[It's not the most optimistic of news, but it's honestly better than what Lup had been expecting. There was at least some hope in there, even if her brother was always so reluctant to talk about this shit.]
Thanks! I'll give that a try and see what happens. Can't hurt, right?
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Date: 2017-11-07 05:44 am (UTC)So I heard you're the dude to chat at when shit's whack.
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Date: 2017-11-07 03:19 pm (UTC)Um, yeah, I can be. What's going on?
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Date: 2017-11-07 03:42 pm (UTC)Just a gal lookin' for a little advice. Sooo, a pal of mine's been havin' some pretty awful nightmares, like the wake up and scream kind, the last few months. He's always brushed it off as nothing, which is totally his right to do, but then we had the, um, dream sharing thing happen and I...
[Saw some dank horrors that were definitely memories, not just nightmares.] I guess what I'm asking, is there anything to do about helping someone with that thing?
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Date: 2017-11-07 03:58 pm (UTC)There is, to some extent. Unless they're occasional, normal nightmares everyone has sometimes, most serious or recurring nightmares have an underlying cause. Although it's difficult to actually treat the symptom without working through the cause, there are still a few things that can be done to lessen the severity.
[It may or may not be very effective, but if whoever it is isn't willing to deal with the underlying issue--which is understandable--then it's worth a try.]
Typically, nightmares happen when the subconscious is trying to sort out or make sense of something that's happened, or feelings that the individual has. Therefore it can often be beneficial for them to consciously get their thoughts in order as much as possible, such as by writing down anything that's been on their mind, talking to a friend about what's upsetting or worrying them, or otherwise trying to mentally address the problem. But suppressing or ignoring it often leads to the nightmares increasing, in order to balance out.
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Date: 2017-11-07 04:13 pm (UTC)It's a real test of Lup's willpower to not just joke away the situation, and if it was for anyone less important to her, she absolutely would have. But this is about the one who matters most to her, so Lup listens and actually takes in everything he has to say. Which is all helpful advice, except for one small part...]
Probably not gonna work well if they aren't willing to talk about it, huh?
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Date: 2017-11-08 02:15 am (UTC)[Although Lup's right in that any major changes are not likely if the person isn't willing to talk about it. Still, even lessening the severity of the nightmares a little can go a long way.]
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Date: 2017-11-10 06:10 am (UTC)Thanks! I'll give that a try and see what happens. Can't hurt, right?
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Date: 2017-11-10 10:37 pm (UTC)[And all of that said--]
If he ever wants to talk to someone, though, he's free to contact me at any time.
[Often times talking to a stranger about these sorts of things is a lot easier than talking to a friend who might worry.]
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Date: 2017-11-12 08:50 pm (UTC)I'll pass the info along. Thanks, doc!
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Date: 2017-11-13 01:23 am (UTC)