Caring is the first part of that, and you're already there.
[It doesn't sound stupid, and not just because he's a psychologist who does know how all of this works, but because he's had to live it. He had the chance to start working on all of this much earlier than she did, but it was still a long and difficult process.]
No one reacts in exactly the same way to the things that happen to them, and I'm sure you know that, but I'm saying it because those differences mean that who you become--or avoid becoming--depends on who you are, and how what's happened in your life affects you.
[He doesn't want to get too professional about this, because he's definitely not giving her professional advice, he just isn't totally sure how else to put it. It's a weird line to find, and he's not sure how successful he's being, but he's trying.]
It can be really hard to figure that out alone, but at the same time you're the person who knows yourself best. Therefore it's a balancing act of trusting someone else, but also trusting yourself, and success doesn't happen in days or weeks or even months, sometimes. But it's something you can do, especially if you're able to ask for help as you go through it.
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Date: 2021-02-21 02:33 am (UTC)[It doesn't sound stupid, and not just because he's a psychologist who does know how all of this works, but because he's had to live it. He had the chance to start working on all of this much earlier than she did, but it was still a long and difficult process.]
No one reacts in exactly the same way to the things that happen to them, and I'm sure you know that, but I'm saying it because those differences mean that who you become--or avoid becoming--depends on who you are, and how what's happened in your life affects you.
[He doesn't want to get too professional about this, because he's definitely not giving her professional advice, he just isn't totally sure how else to put it. It's a weird line to find, and he's not sure how successful he's being, but he's trying.]
It can be really hard to figure that out alone, but at the same time you're the person who knows yourself best. Therefore it's a balancing act of trusting someone else, but also trusting yourself, and success doesn't happen in days or weeks or even months, sometimes. But it's something you can do, especially if you're able to ask for help as you go through it.