[Lance gives him a significant look for that first part, the expression clearly indicating that Lance knows, and expects Mello to know on some level, that managing is not the same as healing and moving forward. But this is, as Mello says, not the issue he's here to deal with, and he thinks pushing too much too soon will be detrimental and so he decides to leave this subject alone for now.
Besides, he's going to have enough problem with the main one, and he's quiet several seconds as he decides how to respond. Although he would normally want to put things very delicately and lightly, he thinks being more direct--so as not to come across as pitying or patronizing--might be the most effective.]
I don't doubt that it made perfect sense to you. And I can't say for sure that it didn't made sense overall.
[But that said--]
However, the way you talk about the decision concerns me. So do the circumstances of how you ended up in the program that you were a part of, and the very narrow focus you were taught to direct your entire life toward achieving. It's also telling that children were selected for trying to achieve these goals, rather than simply retraining adults who might already have life experience that could benefit them.
[And that's just a short list of disturbing things about this entire situation. But it all leads to one conclusion.]
Although I can't say definitively after only one discussion and without knowing more about your world than what you've told me, yes, I think it's very likely that your upbringing altered your ability to view the situation, and therefore makes decisions, objectively.
[And now to hope Mello takes being told something he might not want to hear better than some of the other people he's dealt with in Hadriel so far.]
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Date: 2017-10-10 02:08 am (UTC)Besides, he's going to have enough problem with the main one, and he's quiet several seconds as he decides how to respond. Although he would normally want to put things very delicately and lightly, he thinks being more direct--so as not to come across as pitying or patronizing--might be the most effective.]
I don't doubt that it made perfect sense to you. And I can't say for sure that it didn't made sense overall.
[But that said--]
However, the way you talk about the decision concerns me. So do the circumstances of how you ended up in the program that you were a part of, and the very narrow focus you were taught to direct your entire life toward achieving. It's also telling that children were selected for trying to achieve these goals, rather than simply retraining adults who might already have life experience that could benefit them.
[And that's just a short list of disturbing things about this entire situation. But it all leads to one conclusion.]
Although I can't say definitively after only one discussion and without knowing more about your world than what you've told me, yes, I think it's very likely that your upbringing altered your ability to view the situation, and therefore makes decisions, objectively.
[And now to hope Mello takes being told something he might not want to hear better than some of the other people he's dealt with in Hadriel so far.]